Husband Is not Satisfying Her Sexual Desire: Why Is It
Forbidden For A Woman To Have Multiple Husbands At One
Islamic Rulings -
Living Shariah Verdicts
Islamic Questions & Answers
Shaikh Muhammad Salih Al-Munajjid & Shaikh Sa'd Al-Humaid
Translation reviewer: Abu Adham Osama Omara &
Translation reviewer: Abu Adham Osama Omara
I have a
problem with my husband i.e. I know that I am supposed
to go to him when he calls me to his room, even if I'm
not in the appropriate mood. I also know that lying is
a despicable thing, but pleasing my husband is utmost
thing on my mind.
So is it
wrong of me to fake having a sexual climax with my
a terrible problem for me, because I don't want to
lie, but it embarrasses my husband if he cannot
fulfill my pleasure.
pretending is hard to stop, and also extremely
embarrassing for me to admit to my husband. Please
help me, and also remember me in your du'aa'!
Praise be to Allaah.
We ask Allaah to reward you with good for your
patience and for fulfilling your hus-band's desires in
obedience to the command of your Lord.
The solution to the problem you mention is by speaking
frankly. That does not mean embarrassing your husband
or accusing him of being inconsiderate.
problem often stems from the fact that the husband is
not aware that there is a problem at all, not from the
fact that he is inconsiderate.
husband may go ahead and have intercourse and not pay
attention to some things that he should be doing, one
of which is fulfilling his wife's needs.
Perhaps you could benefit by reading some books on the
topic which explain the basis of the relationship and
intimacy between a man and a woman such as Tuhfat al-'Aroos
by Mahmood Mahdi Istambuli.
The point is that there is nothing wrong with speaking
to your husband about this mat-ter, and suggesting
that he reads about it.
frankly is preferable to suffering in this manner, and
the problem can be solved easily.
This does not excuse the woman from sharing some of
the responsibility. She also has things that she must
do, such as adorning herself for her husband, being
loving towards him and encouraging him to be intimate
We ask Allaah to set the Muslims' affairs straight.
And Allaah knows best
Why are women not allowed to have 3 or 4 husbands but
men can have 3 or 4 wives?
Praise be to Allaah.
This is connected primarily to faith in Allaah. All
religions are agreed that it is not per-missible for a
woman to have intercourse with anyone except her
husband. Among these religions are those which are
undoubtedly of heavenly origin, such as Islam and the
original versions of Judaism and Christianity.
Belief in Allaah
dictates submission to His rulings and laws, for
Allaah is All-Wise and All-Knowing, He knows what is
in the best interests of man-kind. So we may
understand the wisdom behind the ruling of sharee'ah,
or we may not be able to grasp it.
With regard to the permissibility of multiple spouses
for men and its prohibition for women, there are
several issues which are obvious to every intelligent
Allaah has made woman
like a vessel, but man is not like that. If a woman
becomes pregnant (when she has had intercourse with a
number of men at one time), the father can never be
known. People's lines of descent and lineage will be
mixed up, families will be destroyed and chil-dren
will be lost.
Women will be burdened
with so many children that they will be unable to
bring them up and spend on their maintenance. Maybe
women would find themselves forced to sterilize
themselves, which would lead to the extinction of the
Moreover it is medically proven now that one of the
major causes of the serious dis-eases which have
become widespread, such as AIDS, etc., is women having
intercourse with more than one man, and the mixing of
seminal fluids in the woman's womb causes these lethal
Hence Allaah has
prescribed a waiting period ('iddah) for a woman who
has been divorced or whose husband has died, until
enough time has passed for her womb and passages to be
cleansed of any traces of her former husband, and the
monthly period also has a role to play in this matter.
Perhaps these brief pointers will dispense with the
need for a lengthy discussion. If the purpose of the
question is research for a university or other
assignment, he may refer to the books which have been
written on the topic of plural marriage (polygyny) and
the wisdom behind it.
And Allaah is the
Source of strength.