Cannot Be Patient When His Wife Has Her Period: Sex By
Phone, Use Of The Hand i.e. Masturbation
Islamic Rulings -
Living Shariah Verdicts
Islamic Questions & Answers
His wife has a long period of menstruation up to seven days before she does
ghusl. But he feels this time is too long to wait as his sexual appetite is so
high. What must he do or what must she do to solve the problem?
Praise be to Allaah.
We have already explained in question no. 36722 that a man may be intimate with
his wife in all ways apart from intercourse, because when the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) was asked about intimacy with a menstruating
woman, he said, "Do everything except intercourse." (Narrated by Muslim, 302)
The husband also has another permissible means of fulfilling his desire, which
is mas-turbation by his wife's hand. The evidence for that is the general
meaning of the verse (in-terpretation of the meaning): "And those who guard
their chastity (i.e. private parts from illegal sexual acts). Except from their
wives or the (women slaves) whom their right hands possess ? for (then) they are
not blameworthy." (Al-Ma'aarij: 29-30) See also question No. 826
And Allaah knows best.
Sexual Talk between Spouses By Phone: Use Of The Hand i.e.
Masturbation - Fatwa By Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saleh Al-Uthaimeen
Translation Revision by: Abu Adham Osama Omara
Is it allowed for a married couple to speak through the telephone about sex and
to excite each other so much that one of them or both get an orgasm (without
their hands, because that is not allowed). This happens because the man is
living abroad for work and they see each other only once every four month and
they miss each other very much.
Praise be to Allaah.
We put this question to Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih Al-'Uthaymeen who answered as
"There is nothing wrong with that. Yes, it is permissible."
Even if there is use of the hand?
"There are some reservations about use of the hand (i.e. masturbation). It is
not permissible unless one fears that one may commit zina otherwise."
So as long as there is no use of the hand, it is OK?
"Yes, as long as there is no use of the hand, it is OK. He can imagine that he
is with her and there is nothing wrong with that."
They should also make sure that no one is listening to what they say or is
spying on them. And Allaah knows best.