Christian Family Start The Meal With A Supplication To
Jesus; What Should He Do?
Islamic Rulings -
Living Shariah Verdicts
Islamic Questions & Answers
Firstly may Allah bless all those who aide in helping
our Ummah to stay upon the straight path. Ameen. I am
a Muslim in a non-believing family. My family often
times gets together for dinner so that we all can be
together. Before eating food at the dinner table, they
all stand and hold hands to bless the food the are
going to eat. Sometimes the person who is leading in
the supplication will ask for Jesus to bless the food
and thank him for the food, and sometimes they make no
mention of Jesus at all and give thanks to the
Heavenly Father as they say. My family asks me to join
in withe, and I am very uncomfortable doing so because
I dont know this to be apart of the religion of Islam,
firstly because we don't associate partners with
Allah, and I don't know of this ritual having any
bases in Islam. Would I be committing a sin like shirk
, or transgressing if I join in even though I don't
believe in what they believe in or what they saying?
This is of the utmost importance because this happens
frequently in my household and when I don't join in I
feel they are upset with me and my religion.
Praise be to Allaah.
We praise Allah for having guided you to Islam and we
ask Him, may He be glorified, to bless the rest of
your family with that. And we advise you to treat them
kindly and be gentle in calling them, and strive hard
to guide them, for that is the greatest thing you can
give to them.
Asking Jesus (peace be upon him) to bless the food is
a kind of major shirk (associating others with Allah),
because it is calling upon someone other than Allah,
may He be exalted. So it is not permissible to join in
with it or to keep quiet about it when it is possible
to object to it. If a person is unable to object to it
verbally, he should object to it in his heart and
leave the place, because Allah says (interpretation of
“And it has already been revealed to you in the Book
(this Qur’aan) that when you hear the Verses of Allaah
being denied and mocked at, then sit not with them,
until they engage in a talk other than that; (but if
you stayed with them) certainly in that case you would
be like them. Surely, Allaah will collect the
hypocrites and disbelievers all together in Hell”
Al-Jassaas said in Ahkaam al-Qur’aan (2/407): In this
verse there is evidence which indicates that it is
obligatory to denounce evil to the one who is doing
it. Denouncing it includes expressing dislike, if it
is not possible to remove it, and leaving the place
where the one who is doing it is, and staying away
from him, until he stops doing it and does something
else. End quote.
Based on that, what you have to do is either object to
their prayer or get up and leave when they start to do
that. Perhaps it is better to come a little bit late,
after they have started the meal, so that you will not
hear their prayer.
If the family will listen to you and accept your call,
then it is better for you to explain the reason why
you left or why you come late, and tell them that
Islam places great emphasis on enjoining what is good
and forbidding what is evil, and that Islam does not
approve of calling upon anyone other than Allah, and
it does not approve of its followers listening to
wrong words and approving of them.
We ask Allah, may He be exalted, to increase you in
knowledge and guidance.
And Allah knows best.