Consummated The Marriage With Her And Found That She Was
Not A Virgin Even Though She Has Never Committed Any
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Living Shariah Verdicts
Islamic Questions & Answers
I am a Muslim woman, and I fear Allaah in all my
deeds. I got married – praise be to Allaah – to a man
who is good in all ways; he treats me well and I treat
him well, our relationship was excellent in all ways,
love, respect, harmony and love for one another’s
families. But then things started to go wrong. These
days my husband and I found out that I was not a
virgin, but I am certain that I am innocent because no
one ever touched me before him.
Praise be to Allaah.
If your husband is wise and religiously committed, and
he trusts you a great deal, then what he should do is
to believe you when you say that you are innocent of
any wrongdoing, especially since the breaking of the
hymen may be caused by many things, not necessarily by
committing the sin of fornication.
This is if we accept what you have discovered about
your not being a virgin. It may be that intercourse
has taken place between you but the hymen was not
broken, and so there was no bleeding, because of the
nature of the hymen. It may be that the hymen is
flexible and cannot be broken by intercourse, and
requires medical intervention, as is well known to the
experts in this field.
The hymen is simply a physical sign which cannot be
considered proof of whether the woman is a virgin or
not or whether she has committed an immoral act or
not. Hence we find that in court, usually the absence
of the hymen is not regarded as grounds for making
accusations against the woman, because it may be
broken for many reasons.
So the fact that the hymen is present is not a
positive indication that a woman is a virgin, and its
absence is not a positive sign of the opposite.
We advise you to refer to a female doctor to make the
matter clear, because there may be many reasons why
the hymen is broken.
We hope that your husband will understand this matter
and will not be hasty in judging you. You should be
aware that one of the aims of the Shaytaan is to cause
division between husbands and wives, because of the
great evil that results from that affecting families
and individuals, as we see in the hadeeth of Jaabir
who said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Iblees placed his throne
on water then he sends out his emissaries, and the
closest of them to him in status is the one who causes
the most fitnah (tribulation). One of them comes and
says, ‘I did such and such,’ and he says, ‘You have
not done much.’ Then another of them comes and says,
‘I did not leave him alone until I caused division
between him and his wife,’ and he draws him close to
him and says, ‘How good you are.’” Muslim, 5023.
So he should close this door to the Shaytaan and avoid
thinking about this matter, so long as this matter is
not definitive and you are certain that nothing bad
We ask Allaah to guide him and to reconcile between
And Allaah is the Source of strength.