Which It Is Forbidden For A Woman To Do At The Time Of
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Living Shariah Verdicts
Islamic Questions & Answers
If a woman's husband dies, she remains in
‘iddah whilst mourning. What are the things that a
woman should not do during the mourning period?.
Praise be to Allaah.
It is forbidden for a woman at the time of mourning to
do the following:
1 – To go out of her house, except for a necessary
purpose, such as if she is sick and needs to go to the
hospital, in which case she should go during the day;
or in the case of emergencies such as if her house is
about to fall down and there is the fear that it may
collapse on top of her; or in the case of fire; and so
The scholars said: she may go out during the day for
necessary purposes, but at night she should not go out
unless it is essential.
2 – To wear perfume, because the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade the grieving
woman to put on perfume except when she purifies
herself following her period, in which case she may
applies a little azfaar (a kind of perfume) after her
period ends, to take away the traces of menstruation.
3 – To wear beautiful clothes that are considered to
be adornments, because the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade that. Rather
she should wear ordinary clothes such as the kind that
she usually wears inside her house, without making
herself look beautiful.
4 – She should not put on kohl, because the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade
that. If she needs to use it, she should use the kind
of kohl whose colour is not obvious, putting it on at
night and removing it during the day.
5 – She should not wear any jewellery, because if she
is forbidden to wear beautiful clothes, it is more
appropriate that jewellery should not be allowed.
It is permissible for her to speak to men and to speak
on the telephone, and to allow people to enter the
house who are permitted to do so according to
sharee'ah, and to go out onto the roof of the house
during the night and during the day. She does not have
to do ghusl every week as some of the common folk
think, or to undo her hair every week.
Similarly she does not have to – indeed it is
prescribed for her not to – go out when her ‘iddah
ends with something to give in charity to the first
person she meets. This is an act of bid'ah
70 Su'aalan fi Ahkaam al-Janaa'iz, p. 53.