On Using Medicine Or Mechanical Means To Enlarge The Penis
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I feel very embarrassed to ask this question. But
there should not be shyness in Islam. There is a
religious God-fearing sister I know who is married and
has children. This sister says that she does not enjoy
the intimate relationship sometimes with her husband,
because he has a small penis. She asks: Is it
permissible to ask her husband to use some medication
or machine to enlarge the size of his penis? She saw
some advertisements in pharmacies and on the internet
about this matter. Should she ask him to use an
artificial penis on his penis so that she enjoys, then
take it out for him to enjoy as well?.
Praise be to Allaah.
There is nothing wrong with the husband referred to
here consulting doctors for a prescription that will
enlarge his penis, so long as there are no harmful
There is nothing wrong with him using something that
is placed over his penis, such as a condom and the
like, if that will make his wife's pleasure more
complete, because the basic principle is that it is
permissible and the husband is required to treat his
wife well, which includes keeping his wife chaste and
fulfilling her desires, and removing any obstacles
that might prevent that.
Your saying "There is no shyness in religion" is not
appropriate. It would be better for you to say that
Allaah is not shy to speak the truth.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him)
said in one of his answers: As for you saying "There
is no shyness in religion," it is better to say that
Allaah is not shy to speak the truth, as Umm Sulaym
(may Allaah have mercy on her) said: "O Messenger of
Allaah, Allaah is not shy to speak the truth. Does a
woman have to do ghusl if she has a wet dream?" As for
saying "there is no shyness in religion", this is
based on a misunderstanding of the proper meaning. The
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: "Shyness is part of faith." So shyness in
religion is part of faith, but when someone says
"There is no shyness in religion," what he means is
that there is no shyness in matters of religion, i.e.,
in asking about something concerning which one may
feel shy. If this is what is meant, then it is better
to say that Allaah is not shy to speak the truth. Al-Liqa'
And Allaah knows best.
She Does Not Enjoy Intercourse
But She Is Hiding That From Her Husband
I do not enjoy intercourse with my husband. I
researched on the internet and I found out that I need
stimulation for a long time, 30 to 45 minutes. But my
husband does not know that and he thinks that I am
reaching climax. I have two questions: I let him think
that I have reached climax so that I will not bother
him and spoil his enjoyment. Is this regarded as
lying? If he asks me whether I enjoyed it, I tell him
yes, meaning that I only enjoyed seeing him. The more
important question is that he stimulates me during
intercourse but I do not reach a climax, then
immediately after that I resort to masturbation until
I reach a climax. Is this haraam? I know that
masturbation is haraam but I know that my husband will
never help me because it needs too much time, and he
wants to fulfil his desire. What should I do?.
Praise be to Allaah.
There is nothing wrong with what you have mentioned
about pretending to have reached climax, rather it is
indicative of the intelligence and wisdom with which
Allaah has blessed you and of your good treatment of
your husband. We ask Allaah to reward you for that and
to make it a cause of happiness for you and your
It is not lying if you tell him that you enjoyed it,
meaning that you only enjoyed seeing him.
Masturbation is haraam, including the way that you
have mentioned. What you have to do is to stop doing
that, and repent from what has happened in the past.
You should understand that this is may reduce your
pleasure with your husband, and make the problem that
you are suffering worse.
This problem is usually due to two main reasons:
1 – The husband's not understanding the problem or not
having any interest in solving it after he finds out
about it. From your question it seems that your
husband is keen to make you enjoy it, and he
understands that a woman may be deprived of that.
Hence the way to deal with it is to be frank about it,
in a way that will not hurt his feelings or spoil his
enjoyment. Perhaps as time goes by you will find an
opportunity to tell him, in an appropriate manner, so
that you will not be forced to resort to something
haraam and you will be able to enjoy that which Allaah
has permitted for you.
2 – It may be due to the nature of the husband or
wife, in terms of strength or weakness of desire. This
can be dealt with by natural means, medication or
psychological preparation and doing that which will
increase love, and the most important is the wish of
each spouse to fulfil the desire of the other.
See also question no. 23390.
And Allaah knows best.