Ill Effects Of Women Taking Part In Chat Rooms: Some Forums Lead To Fitnah Between The Sexes
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Praise be to Allaah, I am a
religiously-committed young woman and I go on the
Internet a great deal to post lessons and discussions.
Recently I became a moderator in a chat room for
Islamic teachings. Frankly I am very impressed by the
character of the webmaster of this site, because he is
religiously committed and educated, and he honours his
parents. Is it permissible for me to give charity on
his behalf and pray for him even though I know very
little about him?
Another question is: It is permissible for a young
woman to love a person because he is Muslim,
religiously committed and educated? Is this regarded
as love for the sake of Allaah?
Is it permissible for me to take his number and call
him to ask after his family and him, or to talk to him
about some issues having to do with the site?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Among the ill effects of women taking part in chat
rooms is that they may be tempted by some men, and
form a romantic attachment to them, and vice versa,
especially since women are weak and easily affected by
words such as "you did well" and "may Allaah reward
you". If the praise is repeated, it leads to
Hence we should be strict about this issue and say
that women should not take part in chat rooms with
men, if they feel any such thing.
It seems from your question that some of this
attachment has happened to you. Hence we advise you to
keep away from this chat room and cut off all ties
with the webmaster via the internet or otherwise, and
limit yourself to chat rooms that are for women only,
as there are many of them, if you insist on taking
part in such activities. Our advice to you, based on
what you have told us, is that you should protect
yourself against the temptations with which the
internet and chat rooms are filled, and close the door
to this temptation which is opening slowly through
these chat rooms.
The shaytaan deceives people and opens the way that
leads them to sin. He mixes things that are acceptable
with things that are not acceptable, and mixes truth
with falsehood. He comes to each person through
something that is suited to him. So a woman who likes
music will be attracted to singers; as for the woman
who loves Islam and is religiously committed, there
are men who love that too. There is a trick for
Beware of any contact with this young man to whom your
heart has started to feel an attachment. Do not ask
for his number or try to get in touch with him for in
a case such as this, that is the door to temptation.
We ask Allaah to keep us safe and sound.
As for praying for him, there is no harm in that. But
as for giving charity, do that on your own behalf,
because you are more entitled to all hasanahs and your
record is more in need of them:
"That Day shall a man flee from his brother,
35. And from his mother and his father,
36. And from his wife and his children.
37. Every man that Day will have enough to make him
careless of others"
Beware of feeling safe from the tricks of the accursed
one, or of trusting your own strength to rid yourself
of something to which you have opened the door
deliberately. How many have there been before you who
thought it was just a game, but it soon ended. It is
no more than steps that lead to a path from which it
is impossible to turn back. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"O you who believe! Follow not the footsteps of
Shaytaan (Satan). And whosoever follows the footsteps
of Shaytaan (Satan), then, verily, he commands Al-Fahsha'
[i.e. to commit indecency (illegal sexual
intercourse)], and Al-Munkar [disbelief and polytheism
(i.e. to do evil and wicked deeds; and to speak or to
do what is forbidden in Islam)]. And had it not been
for the Grace of Allaah and His Mercy on you, not one
of you would ever have been pure from sins. But Allaah
purifies (guides to Islam) whom He wills, and Allaah
is All-Hearer, All-Knower"
Learn from those who came before you, and may Allaah
protect us and you from becoming a lesson for others.
A wise man said: I do not know of any truth that
resembles falsehood or any falsehood that resembles
truth more than love. Jokes concerning it are serious,
serious talk concerning it is a joke. It starts as a
game and ends in ruin.
We ask Allaah to protect you and take care of you, and
to help us and you avoid temptation, both obvious and
And Allaah knows best.
may lead to fitnah between the sexes
In some Islamic forums there is a section for
amusement. It normally contains funny and rare issues.
Its aim is to amuse the members. It is run by good
brothers and sisters, we think they are good and Allah
We noticed in some forums, especially in this section,
that men and women started to mix together and use
expressions like "ha ha ha" and "may Allah please
you". In addition to some funny pictures that does not
oppose Islam like children in funny situations or
pictures of the nature that contain some funny aspect,
and using the expressional faces (emotions) in titles
and replies. Also the kind of subjects they discuss
together, we think that it can open a door of fitnah.
We suggest some limits to be ruled on forums,
especially this amusing section. We suggest that it
should be only for brothers, not sisters, although the
sisters will be able to read all was typed on this
section, but will not be able to share or reply.
Knowing that there is no ways we can know if the
participant is a brother or a sister, as we do not
have but the name.
Is there any way by which we can control this section
in forums? Whether by allowing only specific subjects,
or specific replies on these subjects, or by making it
for only one sex? Knowing that everyone will be able
to read what is written in this section even the
Is there any specific subjects you suggest that are
Islamic and at the same time achieving the aim of this
section which is amusing these good brothers and
sisters. Or it is better if we just block this section
if it is a door of fitnah? What do you advise us to
Praise be to Allaah.
Most of what happens in so called amusement forums is
carelessness and a lack of control over posts and
comments, because both men and women participate in
these forums. This is undoubtedly a door to fitnah, so
people may be impressed or attracted, then try to get
in touch via e-mail and the like. Hence we think that
this door should be closed, and the amusement forum
should be restricted to men, and another forum should
be set up for women only for the same purpose, if
there is a need for that.
If a man tricks the participants in the forum and
enters as if he is a woman (or vice versa), then the
sin of that lie is borne by him alone. There is no sin
on you, in sha Allaah, so long as you have announced
clearly that it is not allowed for women to take part
in the men's forums or for men to take part in the
And Allaah knows best.