Advice To Women Who Spend Most Of Their Time In The Kitchen
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Many women spend most of their time in the
kitchen, busy preparing various kinds of food, which
takes a lot of time. Can you offer any advice to the
Muslim woman concerning that?
Praise be to Allaah.
The believer should be keen to make the best use of
his time and not to waste it. Many women, as mentioned
in the question, spend hours and hours in preparing
various kinds of food.
The believer should reduce his food intake and his
main concern should not be to enjoy whatever he
desires of food and other things, even if it is
permissible. 'Umar ibn al-Khattaab entered upon his
son 'Abd-Allaah and found him eating meat, and said,
"What is this meat?" He said: "I fancied it." 'Umar
said: "Every time you fancy something, you eat it?! It
is enough extravagance for a man that he eats whatever
he fancies!" May Allaah be pleased with them. The
Muslim should limit himself to what he needs of food,
and not go beyond that.
Moreover, the time that a Muslim woman spends in
preparing food could be used in remembering Allaah or
reciting Quraan whilst she works. it should also be
noted that if her intention when preparing food is
sound, namely to serve her husband and children, then
that is an act of worship for which she will be
Shaykh Abd al-Azeez Aal al-Shaykh said:
Her work in her house is an act of worship to Allaah,
and her doing her household duties and taking care of
her children are an act of worship to Allaah, so she
is in a state of worship, in sha Allaah. So she should
make the most of the time in order to remember Allaah;
it is permissible to remember Allaah whilst preparing
food, praise be to Allaah.
Majallat al-Buhooth, 58/81
She feels anxious – what should she do?
I have some few question. first i don't know now a day
i feel worried for something that i don't know. i
tryed to forget it but i wouldn't worked. i really
need your helped as a muslim girl (married) what
should i do forget it this thing.
Praise be to Allaah.
The best remedy for anxiety is remembrance of Allaah (dhikr),
and regularly praying on time, and avoiding too much
Allaah says concerning dhikr (interpretation of the
"Those who believed (in the Oneness of Allaah —
Islamic Monotheism), and whose hearts find rest in the
remembrance of Allaah verily, in the remembrance of
Allaah do hearts find rest"
and He says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And We send down of the Qur'aan that which is a
healing and a mercy to those who believe (in Islamic
Monotheism and act on it)"
"O mankind! There has come to you a good advice from
your Lord (i.e. the Qur'aan, enjoining all that is
good and forbidding all that is evil), and a healing
for that which is in your breasts, — a guidance and a
mercy (explaining lawful and unlawful things) for the
And He said concerning prayer (interpretation of the
"Verily, man (disbeliever) was created very impatient;
Irritable (discontented) when evil touches him;
And niggardly when good touches him.
Except those who are devoted to Salaah (prayers).
Those who remain constant in their Salaah (prayers)"
"O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salaah
(the prayer). Truly, Allaah is with As-Saabiroon (the
When something distressed the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) he would turn to
prayer (Narrated by Ahmad and Abu Dawood, 1319;
classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami' no.
And he used to say: "O Bilaal, give the call to prayer
(iqaamah) and let us find rest in it." Narrated by
Ahmad, and Abu Dawood; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani
in Saheeh al-Jaami', no. 7892.
Prayer brings comfort to the heart and is a delight,
and is a remedy for worry and grief.
Free time leaves the door open to bad thoughts and the
distress, worry and anxiety that result from them.
Whenever you feel anxious and worried, hasten to do
wudoo' and pray, and read Qur'aan, and keep yourself
busy with beneficial actions, especially the dhikrs
for morning and evening, and when going to sleep,
eating, drinking, and entering and leaving the home.
The Muslim who believes in the will and decree of
Allaah should not worry about his provision or
children or the future in general, because that was
written before he came into existence. Rather he
should worry about his sins and shortcomings before
his Lord, the way of dealing with which is to repent
and hasten to do good deeds. Allaah has guaranteed the
believers a good life, as He says (interpretation of
"Whoever works righteousness — whether male or female
— while he (or she) is a true believer (of Islamic
Monotheism) verily, to him We will give a good life
(in this world with respect, contentment and lawful
provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward
in proportion to the best of what they used to do
(i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter)"
For more information see question no 22704 and 21677.
And Allaah knows best.