She End Her Relationship With Some Kaafir Women Or Use The
Opportunity For Da'wah?
Islamic Rulings - Living Shariah
Islamic Questions & Answers
I am a woman who corresponds with some European and
American women via the internet. We have been
exchanging gifts and discussing sewing ideas for two
years. I have tried to talk to them about Islam, but I
stopped for fear that I do not know enough to call
them to Islam and I might make some mistakes. What do
you advise me to do – should I cut off my ties with
them altogether or should I carry on with the aim of
calling them to Islam despite the difficulties – and
how should I begin? Is this relationship regarded as
friendship, and what is the Islamic ruling on it?.
Praise be to Allaah.
It is not permissible for a Muslim man or woman to
take a male or female friend who is not a Muslim,
because Allaah has forbidden us to love the kuffaar or
take them as close friends and companions, as He says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"You (O Muhammad) will not find any people who believe
in Allaah and the Last Day, making friendship with
those who oppose Allaah and His Messenger (Muhammad),
even though they were their fathers or their sons or
their brothers or their kindred (people). For such He
has written Faith in their hearts, and strengthened
them with Rooh (proofs, light and true guidance) from
Himself. And He will admit them to Gardens (Paradise)
under which rivers flow, to dwell therein (forever).
Allaah is pleased with them, and they with Him. They
are the party of Allaah. Verily, it is the party of
Allaah that will be the successful"
"O you who believe! Take not the Jews and the
Christians as Awliyaa' (friends, protectors, helpers),
they are but Awliyaa' of each other. And if any
amongst you takes them (as Awliyaa'), then surely, he
is one of them. Verily, Allaah guides not those people
who are the Zaalimoon (polytheists and wrongdoers and
"O you who believe! Take not as (your) Bitaanah
(advisors, consultants, protectors, helpers, friends)
those outside your religion (pagans, Jews, Christians,
and hypocrites) since they will not fail to do their
best to corrupt you. They desire to harm you severely.
Hatred has already appeared from their mouths, but
what their breasts conceal is far worse. Indeed We
have made plain to you the Ayaat (proofs, evidences,
verses) if you understand"
[Aal ‘Imraan 3:118]
It is permissible for a Muslim to correspond with them
and to give them gifts, with the aim of calling them
to Islam and showing them its beauty, subject to the
condition that he has sufficient knowledge and faith
which will enable him to call them and protect him
against the specious arguments and devious methods of
the people. But the one who is not equipped to do so
should not involve himself in this field, because of
the temptations to which he may be exposed, or the
doubts with which he may be faced and be unable to
refute, in which case it would lead to his going
astray and being doomed – Allaah forbid.
If this correspondence is limited to the exchange of
sewing ideas and benefiting from them in this way,
without it involving loving them, regarding them as
friends, congratulating them on their festivals etc,
then there is nothing wrong with it in sha Allaah. The
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
used to interact with the Jews, buying and selling.
There is nothing wrong with giving gifts to them,
subject to the condition that they are not in a state
of war against Islam and the Muslims. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"Allaah does not forbid you to deal justly and kindly
with those who fought not against you on account of
religion nor drove you out of your homes. Verily,
Allaah loves those who deal with equity"
al-Sa'di (may Allaah have mercy on him) said (p.
i.e., Allaah does not forbid kindness, upholding of
ties and good and fair treatment of mushrikeen among
your relatives and others, so long as they are not
fighting against you on account of religion or driving
you out of your homes. There is no sin in upholding
ties with them, because there is nothing wrong with
upholding ties with them in this case. End quote.
The means of calling people to Islam are many and
various, such as the following:
1- Direct discussion, in which we should focus on the
merits of Islam, the truth of Tawheed, the importance
of faith, the truthfulness of the message of Muhammad
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and then
explain the falseness of other religions and the
distortions and alterations that have befallen them.
2- Giving books and pamphlets which speak of Islam and
encourage people to enter into it.
3- Directing others to sites which explain Islam and
call people to it, and answer the specious arguments
of those who oppose it, and debate with them in the
manner that is better.
The one who calls others to Islam must be equipped
with Islamic knowledge and strong faith, so that he
may resist specious arguments and temptations.
Otherwise he should leave this field to others, and
fear Allaah with regard to himself and not expose
himself to things that may lead to doom. The Muslim
should beware of letting any love for the kaafir enter
And Allaah knows best.