Her Husband Hits Her And Makes Her Bleed; Should She Call The Police To Protect Her?
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I have a husband who sometimes is very violent
towards me and sometimes really hurt me and made me
bleed, am i allowed to call police when he get violent
Praise be to Allaah.
The husband has to treat his wife kindly, because
Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"and live with them honourably. If you dislike them,
it may be that you dislike a thing and Allaah brings
through it a great deal of good"
And the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon
him) said: "I enjoin good treatment of women."
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3331) and Muslim (1468).
And he said: "The best of you is the one who is best
to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives."
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (3895) and Ibn Maajah (1977);
classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.
It is not permissible for him to hit his wife in a way
that causes her to bleed or hurts her. This is sinful
aggression and enmity, because the basic principle is
that the Muslim's blood, honour, wealth and skin are
sacred and protected, and it is not permissible to
strike him except in cases where the Lawgiver has
allowed striking that is not severe and does not cause
harm, if there is the fear of wilful defiance (nushooz)
on the part of the wife, and exhorting and shunning
have not been to any avail.
Al-Bukhaari narrated from Abu Bakrah (may Allah be
pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) addressed
the people and said: "Do you know what day this is?"
They said: Allah and His messenger know best. He said:
"Is it not the Day of Sacrifice?" We said: Yes indeed,
O Messenger of Allah. He said: "What land is this? Is
it not the sacred land?" We said: Yes indeed, O
Messenger of Allah. He said: "Your blood, your wealth,
your honour and your skin are sacred to you, as sacred
as this day of yours, in this month of yours, in this
land of yours. Have I not conveyed (the message)? We
said: Yes. He said: "O Allah, bear witness."
If the husband continues to beat his wife in the
manner mentioned, it is permissible for her to ask for
a divorce so as to relieve herself of the harm this is
befalling her, and it is permissible for her to tell
the police so that they can protect her against her
husband's aggression by making him promise not to beat
her and threatening him with imprisonment if he does
that. But because the laws in the country where you
are living may dictate punishments that are not
permissible, such as forbidding the husband to enter
his house or come near it, or ruling that the house
belongs to the wife, or detaining the husband for a
period that is not appropriate to his offence, we do
not suggest that you should tell the police at first.
Rather you should refer your case to an Islamic
organisation such as al-Muntada al-Islami in London.
Perhaps Allah will bring about reconciliation at their
hands and your referring to them may bring about some
good solution, or they may offer you some beneficial
advice on how to deal with the police and the likely
consequences of that.
If the husband continues like this and you do not want
a divorce, then there is nothing wrong with telling
the police whilst avoiding any unjust punishment. If
it so happens that a verdict is issued in your favour
that is not correct, such as barring him from entering
the house, it is not permissible for you to act upon
this verdict because the ruling of a judge – even if
he is Muslim – does not make permissible something
that is haraam, and does not make forbidden something
that is halaal.
We ask Allah, may He be exalted, to guide your husband
and set his affairs straight, and to guide you in your
And Allah knows best.
His wife pretended to be religious
before he married her, then she became heedless about
prayer after marriage; should he divorce her?
I live in UK, I married a sister in Muslim
country, for her religiousness. But after marriage, I
find that she is not as religious as she showed before
the marriage. I only married her for her religion but
not for her beauty or wealth or nobility. Now I feel
disappointed marrying her as she is much lower in
religiousness then what she showed and what I
I am not sure what to do? My future plan was to make
future children scholars of Islam (InshaAllah) but i
feel she is not the right mother for it. I made my
future plans clear to her before marriage. she doesnt
like my beard after marriage, but she didn't complaint
before marriage. She is persistently disobedient. one
time i said if you don't obey then i will divorce you,
then she started to obey for a while. I try to teach
her Islam but not interested.
She refuses to pray fajar because she needs to have
bath. So, I stopped having relation which makes bath
We have been married for 2 months. Should I divorce
her or be patient?.
Praise be to Allaah.
There is no doubt that asking about the woman's
religious commitment is the first thing that the man
should look at if he wants to get married, as the
Prophet (blessing and peace of Allah be upon him)
taught us. Moreover one of us can rule only on the
basis of what appears to be the case, from asking
about the woman and her family, and how she is before
marriage. So he should not be content with what she
shows or what he thinks from her outward appearance or
from a few events. If he tries hard to check and ask,
then it becomes clear that she is different from what
he expected, this is the matter of the divine decree
and has nothing to do with him, and in that case he
needs to see the best way to deal with the situation.
The matter of religious commitment is a relative
matter. When it comes to details, some people want the
level of religious commitment that suits them, such as
striving hard to offer naafil fasts, pray qiyaam al-layl,
memorize the Holy Qur'aan or a specific portion of it,
or have some shar‘i knowledge, etc. Others may vary in
the level of religious commitment they seek.
In fact, examining this issue and the possibility of
getting what you want is to be done before marriage.
After marriage, however, there are two possible
There is a certain level of religious commitment
but it is less than expected or less than required. It
is possible to accept this situation, even if it is
less than we hoped for, if the level of commitment is
limited to doing obligatory duties and staying away
from haraam things.
If the woman adheres to that minimum obligatory level
of performing duties and avoiding haraam things, then
she will be fine, in sha Allah, so long as that
includes obedience to her husband.
Imam Ahmad narrated (1573), in a report that was
classed as saheeh by al-Albaani, that ‘Abd al-Rahmaan
ibn ‘Awf (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The
Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be
upon him) said: "If a woman offers her five (daily)
prayers, fasts her month, guards her chastity and
obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter
Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you
After that, the man and his wife can work together to
do more good deeds and naafil acts of worship.
But the serious problem is if the shortcoming in doing
acts of obedience reaches the level of omitting some
obligatory duties or falling into haraam actions.
Imam Ahmad (6664) narrated, in a report that was
classed as saheeh by al-Albaani, that ‘Abd-Allah ibn
‘Amr (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The
Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be
upon him) said: "Every action starts with enthusiasm,
then the enthusiasm wanes; anyone whose enthusiasm
wanes but (remains within the limits of) my Sunnah
will prosper, but anyone whose enthusiasm wanes and
drifts away to something else, will be doomed."
What this means is that there may be times when a
person is very energetic and enthusiastic about
worship and acts of obedience, then these energetic
times are followed by a decrease in enthusiasm,
laziness and a drop from the level previously reached.
This is something natural and there is the hope that
the individual will still prosper, but that is only
if, during the times of decreased enthusiasm and
weakness, he does not neglect the obligatory duties,
because if he abandons them or takes them lightly, he
will be doomed.
Doom is not caused by merely falling into sin, for we
are all sinners; rather a person is doomed when sins
appear in his general behaviour and that becomes his
situation most of the time and he does not care or
feel regret or repent; rather he persists in that sin
and feels at ease with it.
It is clear from the way you described your wife that
her decrease in enthusiasm and backtracking is of the
type that is dangerous, and indeed is of the type that
makes one doubt that she really was as religiously
committed as she appeared to be. Even if she has grown
lazy about some acts of worship, what does your beard
have to do with her that she should feel annoyed by
What you have to do now is not to show any compromise
towards her situation. Being too lazy to get up for
Fajr prayer is a major sin and serious offence. In
fact it is kufr that puts one beyond the pale of Islam
according to many of the Companions of the Prophet
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him). That was
also stated in a fatwa by Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn
Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him). So it is not
permissible for you to approve of that. If ghusl is
what is preventing her from getting up, then you
should not let her go to sleep except in a state of
purity, so that she will have no excuse.
We share your anxiety about your wife and we advise
you to delay having children with her and to try again
with her. If you see that she is praying regularly on
time and is serious about it, including – first and
foremost – Fajr prayer, and she is obeying you and
fulfilling the rights that you have over her, then be
patient with her for a while and see how things go.
Try to discipline her and teach her, and be patient in
putting up with her crookedness and weakness, in the
hope that Allah may guide her and set her straight.
But if you find that she is persisting in neglecting
the prayer or trying to interfere with your religious
commitment and objecting to your beard, then there is
nothing good for you in her and we advise you to leave
her before having children from her, which would only
make the problem more complicated.
See also the answer to question no. 141289 and 98624.
We ask Allah to guide you.
And Allah knows best.