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My wife and i have discused me having a
second wife and she sayes that if i do then she would
devorse me.we did not get married by the kafirs but we
do have a islamic contract. and there was no agreement
on that contract forbiding me from taking a second
wife.so my question is .Is it permisable for her to
deny me this?And is'nt she making the hallal harram on
me. my wife is a good muslimah (I.S.A.) and she would
respect a answer whith proof. jazallahkum ma lakair
Praise be to Allaah.
If a man is able to marry a second wife, physically
and financially, and he can treat both wives in a just
manner, and he wants to take a second wife, then he is
allowed to do so according to Islam. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"… then marry (other) women of your choice, two or
three, or four…" [al-Nisaa' 4:3]
And this was the practice of the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him), and of his
Companions (may Allaah be pleased with them), but
apart from the Prophet, no one is permitted to have
more than four wives.
It is well known that women are by nature jealous and
reluctant to share their husband with other women.
Women are not to be condemned for this jealousy, for
it existed in the best of righteous women, the
Sahaabiyyaat, and even in the Mothers of the Believers
[the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him)]. But women should not let
jealousy make them object to that which Allaah has
prescribed, and they should not try to prevent it; a
wife should allow her husband to marry another woman
for this is a kind of cooperating in righteousness and
piety. According to a hadeeth whose authenticity is
agreed upon, the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) said: "Whoever pays attention to
his brother's needs, Allaah will pay attention to his
The first wife's consent is not a prerequisite for a
man to take another wife. The Standing Committee for
Issuing Fatwas was asked about this and replied as
"It is not obligatory for the husband, if he wants to
take a second wife, to have the consent of his first
wife, but it is good manners and kindness to deal with
her in such a manner that will reduce the hurt which
women naturally feel in such situations. This is done
by being kind to her and speaking to her in a gentle
and pleasant manner, and by spending whatever money
may be necessary in order to gain her acceptance of
Concerning her request for divorce if her husband
wants to marry another wife, this is a mistake. But
they should examine the situation, and if she really
cannot cope with living with another wife, then she
can ask him for khula' [ a kind of divorce instigated
by the wife, whereby she forgoes the mahr]. If she can
cope with living with the second wife, but it hurts
her to do so, then she should be patient and seek the
pleasure of Allaah. Thawbaan (may Allaah be pleased
with him) narrated that the Messenger (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
"No woman asks her husband for a divorce for no
reason, but the fragrance of Paradise is forbidden for
her." (Narrated by Abu Dawood and others, and classed
as saheeh by al-Albaani, may Allaah have mercy on
If she bears it with patience, then Allaah will make
it easier for her and will expand her chest (i.e.,
grant her peace and calm), and will compensate her
with something good. The husband must also help her by
treating her kindly, being patient with her for any
jealousy etc. on her part, and overlooking her
mistakes. And Allaah is the source of help.
Shaykh ‘Abd-Allaah al-Haydari
If my husband takes a second wife,
will I be rewarded?
What is the reward, "ajr", for the first wife
having patience ,"sabr", when her husband takes a
second wife? Is there a special reward in this case,
or is it the same reward for all women who obey their
husbands and make their religious duties? If I would
get to know about a special reward, things would be
easier to accept. Someone said that the reward for
this kind of woman was more than the reward for a
mu´min leaving for jihad. And since Hajj is the jihad
of a woman, accepting polygamy for the first wife is
more than jihad. Is ther daleel for this, or do you
know about another reward?.
Praise be to Allaah.
We do not know of any saheeh evidence which refers to
the reward mentioned, but al-Tabaraani narrated from
Ibn Mas'ood that the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) said: "Allaah has decreed jealousy
for women and jihad for men, so whoever bears that
with patience out of faith and in the hope of reward
will have a reward like that of a martyr." This
hadeeth was classed as da'eef (weak) by al-Albaani in
Da'eef al-Jaami' al-Sagheer, no. 1626.
A woman's being patient in obeying her husband is one
of the means of entering Paradise, as it says in the
hadeeth narrated by Ibn Hibbaan: "If a woman offers
her five daily prayers and fasts her month (i.e.,
Ramadaan) and guards her chastity and obeys her
husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter Paradise from
whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.'" This
hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh
al-Jaami' al-Sagheer, no. 660.
Her patience in putting up with her husband's marrying
a second wife will bring a special reward over and
above that, for several reasons:
1 – Her husband's marrying another wife is regarded as
a test and trial for her, and if she bears that with
patience she will have the reward for being patient in
the face of a trial, as Allaah says (interpretation of
"Only those who are patient shall receive their reward
in full, without reckoning"
According to the hadeeth: "No fatigue, nor disease,
nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress
befalls a Muslim, not even a thorn that pricks him,
but Allaah will expiate his sins thereby."
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5642; Muslim, 2573, from the
hadeeth of Abu Sa'eed and Abu Hurayrah.
Al-Tirmidhi (2399) narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: "Trials will continue to befall the believer,
man or woman, concerning himself, his child and his
wealth, until he meets Allaah with no sin on him."
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami',
2 – If a woman accepts that and treats her husband and
the other wife well, she will have the reward of al-muhsineen.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Verily, he who fears Allaah with obedience to Him (by
abstaining from sins and evil deeds, and by performing
righteous good deeds), and is patient, then surely,
Allaah makes not the reward of the Muhsinoon
(good-doers) to be lost"
"Is there any reward for good other than good?"
"And verily, Allaah is with the Muhsinoon
3 – If she feels angry because of that, but she
controls her anger – and controlling one's tongue is
part of controlling one's anger – Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"…who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily,
Allaah loves Al-Muhsinoon (the good-doers)"
[Aal ‘Imraan 3:134]
This reward is in addition to the woman's reward for
obeying her husband under ordinary circumstances.
A wise woman should accept whatever Allaah decrees for
her, and she should realize that her husband's
marrying another woman is something permissible, so
she should not object to it. It may be that this
(second) marriage will make him more chaste and
prevent him from doing something haraam.
It is very unfortunate that some women object less to
their husbands doing haraam things than to their
marrying another woman in a permissible manner. This
is a sign of their lack of reason and religious
Women should follow the good example of the wives of
the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) and his companions, who were patient and sought
reward even though many of them felt jealous. If your
husband goes ahead and takes a second wife then you
have to be patient and content and treat him well so
that you can attain the reward of the patient and the
doers of good.
Note that this life is the life of trials and tests,
and how quickly it ends. So congratulations to the one
who is patient in obeying Allaah in this life until he
attains eternal delight in the gardens of Paradise.
And Allaah knows best.