Wife Does Not Want To Wear Hijaab And He Fears For His
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Islamic Questions & Answers
My wife is not wearing Hijab although she is a
strong beleiver and practicing all Salats on time etc.
We are both Engineers and we have 2 young daughters (2
and 5 Years. I am worried that my children will also
go away from wearing hijab if they see their mother
not wearing it as well. I've tried many times to
convince her to put it (she has read the relevant
sourates) but I've stopped doing that when I felt that
she would reject whatever she was already on. My
question is as a husband and father, shall I force her
to wear it anyway to preserve the future of the
daughters or shall I keep patient untill Allah guides
her? My second question is are we (the husbands)
responsible in front of Allah regarding weather or not
our wives / daughters wear hijab or not?
Praise be to Allaah.
Strong faith must have effects which can be seen in a
person's appearance and conduct. If a person persists
in sin, this is a sign of weak faith.
What you have to do is try to plant the seeds of faith
in her heart and help it to grow strong. What is meant
by that is the kind of faith that will motivate a
person to behave in accordance with the sharee'ah.
Then try to instill in her a love of the hijaab and of
righteous deeds, such as explaining the benefits of
hijaab and how good it is, and giving her books and
audio tapes, if these are available, which speak about
that. One of the most important means which will help
to achieve this is to put her in touch – in an
indirect manner – with righteous women who wear the
hijaab and try to have frequent family gatherings with
If you do this, you will have tried various means of
convincing her. Then you will have to oblige her in an
appropriate fashion and not allow her to go out to
public places without hijaab. (It is important to
explain to your daughter that hijaab is obligatory and
tell her about Allaah's ruling on hijaab, even if she
realizes that her mother is falling short. You have to
explain it to her at a level that she can understand
so that she will see that there is a difference
between the rulings of sharee'ah and the way her
mother is behaving. Who knows – perhaps she will
advise her mother, in the moving and innocent manner
of children – to wear hijaab).
With regard to the second question, there is no doubt
that fathers are responsible if their wives and
daughters do not wear hijaab and do not adhere to the
rulings of sharee'ah, as Allaah says (interpretation
of the meaning):
"O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your
families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and
stones" [al-Tahreem 66:6]
And as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) said:
"Each of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his
flock… the man is a shepherd over the members of his
household and is responsible for his flock…"
But if a person does all that he can and strives his
utmost, but does not achieve any results, Allaah will
excuse him and will not punish him; on the contrary,
He will reward him for his efforts, and Allaah does
not cause the reward for any good deed to be lost.
Written by Shaykh Muhammad al-Duwaysh
Responding to Allaah's command of
hijab and warning against going against that command
We are aware of hijab - covering of woman's
face and hair. Some of my muslim lady friends donot
cover their hair and there is an argument that if they
tie their hair rather than keep it open, the degree of
the sin (gunah) is smaller? Also keeping long hair
open is a greater sin than keeping short hair open. Is
it true? Plese help and reply.
Praise be to Allaah.
When Allaah, may He be exalted, and His Messenger
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) enjoin
something, it is obligatory for the Muslim to say, "We
hear and we obey," and to hasten to carry out what has
been enjoined upon him. This is what is required by
faith in Allaah.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allaah
and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they
should have any option in their decision. And whoever
disobeys Allaah and His Messenger, he has indeed
strayed into a plain error"
Shaykh ‘Abd al-Rahmaan al-Sa'di (may Allaah have mercy
on him) said:
"It is not for a believer, man or woman" means: it is
not appropriate or befitting for the one who is
described as a believer to do anything other than to
hasten to please Allaah and His Messenger, and to flee
from incurring the wrath of Allaah and His Messenger,
and to obey their commands, and to avoid that which
they have prohibited. It is not appropriate for a
believing man or a believing woman "when Allaah and
His Messenger have decreed a matter" and enjoined it,
"that they should have any option in their decision".
They do not have the choice of whether to do it or
not, rather the believing man and the believing woman
know that the Messenger is dearer to them then their
own selves, so they should not let their own whims and
desires form a barrier between them and obeying the
command of Allaah and His Messenger.
"And whoever disobeys Allaah and His Messenger, he has
indeed strayed into a plain error" means, an obvious
error, because he has forsaken the Straight Path which
leads to the reward of Allaah, and has strayed to
another path which leads to a painful torment. So
Allaah mentions first the reason for not going against
the command of Allaah and His Messenger, which is
faith, then He mentions the deterrent for that, which
is fear of going astray, which leads to punishment and
humiliation. End quote.
Tafseer al-Sa'di, p. 612.
The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) told us that the one who disobeys him is the one
who does not want to enter Paradise! Al-Bukhaari
(7280) narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be
pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "All of my
ummah will enter Paradise except those who refuse."
They said: "O Messenger of Allaah, who would refuse?"
He said: "Whoever obeys me will enter Paradise and
whoever disobeys me has refused."
When the command of hijab came, the first Muslim women
hastened to obey it, so much so that the women tore
their clothes in order to hasten to obey this command.
This is what is meant by faith.
It was narrated that ‘Aa'ishah (may Allaah be pleased
with her) said: May Allaah have mercy on the women of
the early muhaajireen. When Allaah revealed the words
"and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e.
their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)", they tore
their aprons and covered their faces with them.
Narrated by al-Bukhaari in a mu'allaq report and by
Abu Dawood (4102); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in
Saheeh Abi Dawood.
Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar said:
Muroot, sing. murt (translated here as "aprons")
refers to the izaar or lower garment.
Fath al-Baari, 8/490
Our advice to those sisters is to hasten to obey the
command of Allaah without any hesitation, and not to
try to obey part of the command and neglect part of
it. It is obligatory for a woman to cover her hair,
face and all of her body, and it is not permissible
for her to show any part of that in front of non-mahram
men. Whoever does that is exposing herself to the
threat and is lacking in faith to the extent that she
is failing to respond to the command of Allaah.
In the answer to question no. 11774 we have explained
the ruling on women covering their faces, with
In the answer to question no. 6244 we have answered
the question: "Why should women cover their hair?"
In the answer to questions no. 214 and 6991 we have
given a description of correct hijab.
And Allaah knows best.