Should He Encourage A Relationship
Between A Muslim Man And A Kaafir Woman So As To
Protect Her From Evil And Call Her To Good?!
Islamic Rulings -
Living Shariah Verdicts
Islamic Questions & Answers
I am in a situation where I want to invite this
woman to Islam but don't know how, like we discussed
about Islam and everything, she is non muslim who is
going out with a muslim man, although their
relationship is forbidden I am encouraging them two to
stay together for 2 reasons one of them is that I do
not want her to fall in love with a bisexual guy who
has shown interest in her. The gay guy has a child
from another lady and has slept with many men as well
as women. I dont want him having children with this
woman. Secondly cos her boyfriend is muslim, Im hoping
he could help her become muslim inshallah. But problem
is that she is getting closer to the bisexual man like
they are going out to dinners and partys together
which gives me the idea that something is going on.
Please brother, what should I do to stop her from
getting close to the bisexual guy and what should I do
to help her become a muslim? Also we dont discuss
Praise be to Allaah.
Although we appreciate your keenness for that which is
good and your intention to do what is best for this
woman, we think that you are not doing the right thing
by encouraging friendship between her and that Muslim
man. How many of those who seek to do good fail to
achieve it. The rulings of Islam should be our
starting point in our actions and we should not be
ruled by our emotions which go against the laws of
You know that any haraam relationship between a man
and a woman leads to many things that are contrary to
Islam and may lead to falling into major sin, so how
can such a relationship be a means of achieving good
for the people involved?
Relationships between women and men outside the
framework of shar'i marriage are haraam.
Moreover, your fear for this woman is making you
expose your Muslim brother to temptation, so this
woman will be a cause of your brother's temptation and
may lead him to sins that doom a person to Hell and to
Now you are committing a haraam action in the hope of
achieving some purpose which may or may not be
achieved. Such things are not permissible according to
You can achieve your goal in protecting this woman
against evil and calling her to Islam through a woman
-- like her -- who is Muslim and is close to her; thus
you can call her to goodness and warn her against
For ways in which a Muslim sister could call this
woman to Islam, see the answer to question number
To sum up:
It is not permissible for you to encourage this haraam
relationship; rather what you must do is advise them
that this relationship is haraam according to Islam
and that no one knows the unseen except Allaah. This
may be a cause of her becoming Muslim because of what
she sees of Islam's respect for women and how it
We ask Allaah to guide you and her.
And Allaah knows best.
He wants to specialize in calling
Christians to Islam
I have seen Christians in Morocco came from
Europe for missionary work. They left their homes and
desires and are using the best techniques their
civilization could reach in service for their belief.
They are spreading in all Africa. Truthful is Allah
who says: "And they will never cease fighting you
until they turn you back from your religion (Islamic
Monotheism) if they can". I want to be specialized in
facing Christians. I want to study Christianity, I
think we are in need of such specialty. Especially in
our country; I heard that young men here wear the
cross and put it on their clothes. I need your
guidelines to enlighten my way to this study. I wish
you provide me with a program includes both Islamic
and Christian studies. May Allah reward you!.
Praise be to Allaah.
What you mention about the activities of some
missionaries and their patience in travelling and
making sacrifices is something that is well known. If
this is their state even though they are promoting
falsehood and striving for the sake of falsehood, then
how about the Muslim whom Allaah has blessed with
guidance and taught him the path of truth? Undoubtedly
he, of all people, should be striving and making the
effort, sacrificing that which is most dear to him, in
order to spread the religion of Islam and teach and
guide people, whether they are Christians or others.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: "Advance cautiously, until you reach their
open space, then invite them to Islam, and tell them
of their duties before Allaah. By Allaah, if Allaah
were to guide one man through you, that would be
better for you than having red camels." Narrated by
al-Bukhaari (3009) and Muslim (2406).
The path of da'wah (calling others to Islam) is the
path of the Prophets and Messengers, because they were
the most compassionate of people towards people, and
the keenest of people to guide people. But it is a
path that needs provision, namely knowledge, patience
and certainty of faith. You have done well to ask
about the way to specialize in debating with the
Christians, because some people indulge in this field
without preparation, and that may lead to his putting
his opponent off or making him cling more steadfastly
to his falsehood, or it may lead to him becoming weak
himself and being filled with doubts.
Hence the one who wants to strive for the sake of
Allaah and call these people to Islam and debate with
them should pay attention to a number of matters:
1 – Studying sound ‘aqeedah from reliable sources,
directly from scholars if possible.
2 – Acquiring shar'i knowledge which will correct his
worship and interactions with others, because learning
this is an individual obligation, and it takes
precedence over the duty of calling others.
We have previously explained the program that the
seeker of knowledge should follow and the most
important books that he needs at the initial stage.
Please see question no. 14082, 20191 and 21590.
3 – Paying attention to Islamic sources which deal
specifically with calling Christians to Islam and
discussing their situation and their specious
arguments. There are many such sources, among the most
important of which are: al-Jawaab al-Saheeh li man
baddala Deen al-Maseeh by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah;
Hidaayat al-Hayaara fi Ajwabah al-Yahood wa'l-Nasaara
by Ibn al-Qayyim; Izhaar al-Haq by Shaykh
Rahmat-Allaah al-Hindi (available in English);
Manaazirah bayna al-Islam wa'l-Nasraaniyyah by Shaykh
Muhammad Jameel Ghaazi; al-A'qaa'id al-Wathaniyyah
fi'l-Diyaanah al-Nasraaniyyah by Muhammad Taahir al-Tanneer;
Muhaadiraat fi'l-Nasraaniyyah by Shaykh Abu Zahrah;
al-Mawsoo'ah al-Muyassarah fi'l-Adyaan wa'l-Madhaahib
al-Mu'aasirah; al-Nasraaniyyah min al-Tawheed ila al-Tathleeth
by Dr Muhammad Ahmad al-Haaj; Muhammad fi'l-Kitaab al-Muqaddas
by Prof. ‘Abd al-Ahad Dawood [available in English
under the title Muhammad in the Bible]; Diraasaat
fi'l-Adyaan: al-Yahoodiyyah wa'l-Nasraaniyyah by Dr.
Sa'ood al-Khalaf; and Rasaa'il wa Manaaziraat by
Shaykh Ahmad Deedat [Shaykh Ahmad Deedat's booklets
and videos are widely available in English].
You can also benefit from websites that specialize in
this topic, such as the following (in Arabic):
4 – He should strive to debate in a polite and fair
manner, and look at the one who disagrees with him in
a compassionate manner. So he should be keen to guide
him and strive to convey the truth to him, like a
sympathetic doctor treating his patient. So he should
not mock him or laugh at him, and he should not act
superior or arrogant, rather he should call him to the
way of his Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching,
and respond in the way that is better, as Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"And argue not with the people of the Scripture (Jews
and Christians), unless it be in (a way) that is
better (with good words and in good manner, inviting
them to Islamic Monotheism with His Verses), except
with such of them as do wrong; and say (to them): ‘We
believe in that which has been revealed to us and
revealed to you; our Ilaah (God) and your Ilaah (God)
is One (i.e. Allaah), and to Him we have submitted (as
Al-Qurtubi said in his Tafseer: It is permissible to
argue with the people of the Book in the way that is
better, in the sense of calling them to Allaah and
pointing out the sound evidence and proofs, in the
hope that they may respond to the call of faith, not
by way of proving them to be wrong and treating them
harshly. End quote.
Many Christians, when they hear the arguments of the
Muslims and realize that what they were following is
wrong, believe and are guided, and they succeed and
prosper. Using good methods in calling people has a
powerful effect in that regard.
We should re-emphasize at this point the importance of
arming oneself with shar'i knowledge and studying this
matter in depth, which has become a branch of
knowledge in its own right nowadays, before indulging
in it, because if you indulge in this matter before
preparing yourself and studying enough about it, your
weakness and incapability will backfire against the
religion which you want to promote and defend.
Strive to make contact with people in your country who
are specialized in this field, and whose religious
commitment and knowledge can be trusted, to help you
with this matter and guide you to what you need.
We ask Allaah to help and guide you.
And Allaah knows best.