He Promised To Marry Her; Does He Have Any Marital Rights
Islamic Rulings -
Living Shariah Verdicts
Islamic Questions & Answers
I have a female friend who got to know a young
man; circumstances prevented him from proposing to her
before he travelled, but he made a pledge that she is
his wife before Allah and he intends to marry her when
he comes back. Does he have any marital rights over
her? Can he see her over the Internet without hijab?.
Praise be to Allaah.
The mere fact that your friend got to know this
young man and he promised to marry her does not make
her his wife under any circumstances. It is not
permissible for him to see her and he has no marital
rights over her, because the marriage contract was not
done between them; rather she is a non-mahram to him.
His saying to her, "You are my wife before Allah" is
not correct, because she is not his wife, either
before Allah or before the people. The marriage
contract is not done with words such as this; rather
it is essential that there be the proposal and
acceptance, in the presence of her guardian and with
his approval, and in the presence of two Muslim
So long as none of that has happened, she is not his
What this sister has to do is fear Allah with regard
to her relationship with this man and others. It is
not right for a Muslim woman to get to know young men
who are not her mahrams, even if she likes their
character or religious commitment, as she thinks. If
he wants to marry her then he has to approach the
matter properly, through his family and her family. In
the answer to questions no. 36618, 23349 and 78375 you
will find a detailed discussion on the ruling on
forming relationships with non-mahram men and the
ruling on corresponding with them.
These relationships and haraam promises lead to
nothing but evil and corruption.
Many girls have regretted such relationships, but
after a long time.
Beware of falling prey to the snares of the Shaytaan.
We ask Allah, may He be exalted, to protect us and you
from all evil.
And Allah knows best.