They Want To Conceal Their Marriage: Marriage According To Sharee'ah But Not The Law Of The Land
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Islamic Questions & Answers
I am converting to Islam, however I find it
difficult to tell my family..I will do so in time
however is it necessary to announce it officially.
I wish to also become a wife to a man (who already has
a wife and children) for islamic reasons. The
difficult part is also telling his family
Is it necessary to annouce our marriage? As we do not
wish to hurt anyone.
I trust you will be able to guide me as will Allah.
Praise be to Allaah.
You do not have to announce your Islam, whether
officially or to your family, and it is permissible to
keep it a secret if there is some fear of harm. As for
marriage, however, the sunnah is to announce it,
because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) said: "Announce marriages." (Reported by
Imaam Ahmad in Musnad ‘Abd-Allaah ibn al-Zubayr;
classed as hasan in Saheeh al-Jaami', 1072). If a
marriage is announced in one city or location, it need
not be announced in another, but we do not advise you
to conceal the news of your marriage, especially since
such news usually becomes known eventually. This news
is likely to be a big shock to the first wife, so
announcing the marriage is in the interests of all
concerned, as it establishes fair and just treatment
for both wives. And Allaah is the Source of strength.
Marriage according to sharee'ah but
not the law of the land
If you get married in islamic law but not in the
states eyes, and have relations with the one you
married is that adultury.
Praise be to Allaah.
If you get married according to the law of Allaah and
His Messenger, it does not matter if the whole world
of man-made laws disagrees with that. She will be your
legitimate wife and you can have relations with her
whenever you wish – this is not considered to be
haraam or adulterous. How could it be, when you have
married her according to the sharee'ah and it has
become legitimate for you to have intercourse with her
by the word of Allaah! This ruling is also of benefit
to anyone who may wish to marry more than one woman in
countries where polygyny is forbidden by jaahili
man-made law. And Allaah is the Source of strength.