Attending Wedding Parties Which Involve Some Evils (Such As Songs, Dancing, Music, Improper Clothing, etc)
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Celebrations nowadays are not free of some evils, such
as songs, dancing, music, improper clothing, etc. My
question is very important:
1- Is it permissible to attend and accept invitations
to these occasions?
2- As 99% of these events are not free of songs,
especially those that are accompanied by haraam
musical instruments or indecent words, does this mean
that we should have nothing to do with them and not
attend any such occasions?
3- If we do not attend these parties, does that mean
we are severing the ties of kinship, cutting ourselves
off from people and causing enmity between us and
4- The scholars have stipulated that if we attend
these celebrations we must denounce what goes on, but
such denunciations receive no response and there is no
real opportunity at such times which they claim are
times of joy.
5- I hope that you can find the time to explain for us
in detail about this matter which is so widespread
Praise be to Allaah.
1 – It is not
permissible to attend wedding parties that involve
evil actions, such as singing that is accompanied by
music or that includes indecent words. The fact that
this is widespread among people does not mean that it
is permissible and should not be denounced.
2 – Not attending these parties is not regarded as
severing the ties of kinship, rather it is protecting
oneself from seeing or hearing evil. Your family and
relatives should understand that you would be keen to
attend and take part, were it not for the evil things
that they do.
3 – If a person who is invited to such an event knows
that there will be evil things happening and that he
is not able to denounce them, it is not permissible
for him to attend.
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in
al-Mughni (7/214): If a person is invited to a wedding
feast in which evil things will take place, such as
wine, musical instruments, etc, and he is able to
attend and remove those evils, then he must attend and
denounce them, because then he will be fulfilling two
duties: accepting the invitation of his Muslim brother
and removing evil. But if he is not able to denounce
them then he should not attend. If he does not know
about the evils until he gets there, he should remove
them. If he cannot, then he should go away. Something
similar was stated by al-Shaafa'i.
It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa'imah:
If wedding parties are free of evils such as men
mixing with women and indecent songs, or if you attend
then these evils will be changed, then it is
permissible to attend, so as to share in the occasion
of joy. Rather it is obligatory to attend if there is
some evil that you can remove.
But if there are evil things in these parties that you
cannot denounce, then it is haraam to attend them
because of the general meaning of the words of Allaah
(interpretation of the meaning):
"And leave alone those who take their religion as play
and amusement, and whom the life of this world has
deceived. But remind (them) with it (the Qur'aan) lest
a person be given up to destruction for that which he
has earned, when he will find for himself no protector
or intercessor besides Allaah" [al-An'aam 6:70]
"And of mankind is he who purchases idle talks (i.e.
music, singing) to mislead (men) from the path of
Allaah without knowledge, and takes it (the path of
Allaah, or the Verses of the Qur'aan) by way of
mockery. For such there will be a humiliating torment
(in the Hell-fire)"
And because of the many ahaadeeth which condemn
singing and musical instruments.
From Fataawa al-Mar'ah, compiled by Muhammad al-Musnad,
And Allaah knows best.