A Muslim Girl Is In Love With A Hindu Boy But Wants To Forget Him
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seven years i am in love with one boy.... he is
against my religion he is a hindu after a great effort
i convinced him to convert to muslim and he had agreed
but now he has changed his mind and he abuses me all
the time and he ignores me because he income is good
now i guess i am suppose to leave him but iam not able
to do so because i love him a lot and i fear leaving
him,he has taken care of me from four years now
because i stay alone here for education and my parents
are else where... please suggest a strong dua so that
i succeed in my career and to totally forget this guy
who keeps hurting and ignoring.
Praise be to Allaah.
You must hasten to repent to Allaah and beg Him to
forgive and pardon you, for you have wronged yourself
and your religion, and spent this long period of your
life in disobedience to Allaah, and the shaytaan has
made your bad deeds appear attractive to you. You say
that you wanted to call this playboy to Islam, but you
should have called yourself to fear Allaah and to
beware of His punishment.
It is indeed a great calamity when fathers and mothers
fail to protect their daughters and leave them exposed
to the "wolves" on the basis of their study. Where is
your protective jealousy, O people of Islam? What
about the trust (amaanah) concerning which you will be
asked before Allaah tomorrow?
Your staying far away from your family was the
beginning of this evil, then your getting to know this
boy and falling in love with him and becoming so
attached that you were afraid to leave him or be far
away from him. All of these are things from which you
must repent to your Lord before death takes you by
surprise when you are in this state. Praise Allaah
that there is still some life in your heart which has
led you to ask and try to get out of this great
calamity. We ask Allaah to save you and keep you safe.
There are some steps that you have to take in order to
rid yourself of this sinful relationship, which could
lead to your doom in this world and in the Hereafter.
1 – You must resolve firmly to end this relationship
out of fear of Allaah and in the hope that He will
forgive you for what has happened in the past, not
because this boy has treated you badly and hurt you,
but because your Almighty Lord has rights over you and
you are a believing woman who must strive to please
Him and avoid disobeying Him.
2 – You must cut off all means of communication
between you and change your place of residence if
possible; indeed you should go back to your family so
that Allaah will make it easy for you to be distracted
and forget about him, and you can be resolved and able
to leave him.
3 – You should occupy yourself with worshipping Allaah,
by regularly praying, fasting, reciting dhikr and
reading Qur'aan, because if the nafs is not kept busy
with acts of obedience to Allaah, it will keep you
busy in acts of disobedience to Him, and the shaytaan
is closer to the person who is falling short and
negligent in his worship and religious commitment.
4 – You should not think about this boy at all or
about calling him to Islam, because this is one of the
tricks of the shaytaan which is aimed at making you
incur the wrath of Allaah.
5 – You should remember that you belong to this great
religion, so do not let this evildoer have the joy of
you drifting away from it. Remember that it is
obligatory for every Muslim to disavow himself of the
kaafireen and not feel any love in his heart for any
one of them, as Allaah says (interpretation of the
"You (O Muhammad Peace And Blessings Of Allaah Be Upon
Him) will not find any people who believe in Allaah
and the Last Day, making friendship with those who
oppose Allaah and His Messenger (Muhammad Peace And
Blessings Of Allaah Be Upon Him), even though they
were their fathers or their sons or their brothers or
their kindred (people). For such He has written Faith
in their hearts, and strengthened them with Rooh
(proofs, light and true guidance) from Himself. And He
will admit them to Gardens (Paradise) under which
rivers flow, to dwell therein (forever). Allaah is
pleased with them, and they with Him. They are the
party of Allaah. Verily, it is the party of Allaah
that will be the successful"
6 – You should look for some righteous friends who can
help you to obey Allaah and put a barrier between you
and disobedience to Him. You should listen a great
deal to tapes of exhortations and raqaa'iq
(heart-softening reports) about Paradise and Hell,
death and the torment of the grave, so as to increase
your faith and make you fear Allaah more, and so that
you will realize how insignificant this world and
everything in it is, and how important the Hereafter
and what Allaah has prepared for its people are.
7 – Say a lot of du'aa' and ask Allaah to divert evil
from you and save you from temptation. For example,
you can say: "O Allaah, guide me to what is best for
me, and protect me from the evil of my own self. O
Allaah, purify my heart and guard my chastity. O
Allaah, divert the plot of the Shaytaan away from me.
O Controller of the hearts, make my heart adhere
firmly to Your religion."
What matters is that you should say that with humility
and proper focus, and chose the times when du'aa's are
answered, such as between the adhaan and iqaamah,
whilst prostrating and in the last third of the night.
The du'aa' does not have to be in words narrated in
reports (from the Prophet (Peace And Blessings Of
Allaah Be Upon Him)), rather you may ask Allaah for
what you need in whatever language you can, declaring
your need for Allaah and asking Him to save you,
purify you, divert evil from you and cover and conceal
you in this world and in the Hereafter.
We ask Allaah to guide you and accept your repentance.
And Allaah knows best.