Obese Woman Who Asks Non-mahram Man For Help In Getting On And Off The Bus
Islamic Rulings -
Living Shariah Verdicts
Islamic Questions & Answers
holds my hand when I am getting off the bus, knowing
that I cannot get one or off by myself, because my
feet hurt me and my body is obese, is this haraam?
Praise be to Allaah.
principle is that the Muslim woman should not go out
of her house except in cases of necessity. If there is
no need for her to go out then she is enjoined to stay
in her house as Allaah says (interpretation of the
"And stay in your houses, and do not display
yourselves like that of the times of ignorance"
Ibn Katheer (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
This etiquette is something that Allaah enjoined upon
the wives of His Prophet (Peace And Blessings Of
Allaah Be Upon Him) and the women of the ummah follow
them in that.
Tafseer al-Qur'aan il-'Azeem (3/482).
If a woman needs to go out, then she may go out
subject to the conditions decreed by sharee'ah, such
as wearing proper hijab, and not wearing perfume and
adornments, but if she goes the distance that is
regarded as travelling then she must have a mahram
If a woman is overweight, obese or sick and needs a
man to help her get on or off the bus, in that case it
is not permissible for her to go out except with a
mahram or a woman who can help her with that. It is
not permissible for a woman to allow a man to hold her
hand or touch her because he is a stranger (non-mahram)
For details on the ruling on touching a non-mahram
woman, please see the answer to question no. 21183.
If a woman is compelled to go out and she does not
have any mahram who can help her get in and out of the
bus, then she can ask one of the women on the bus for
If she cannot do any of these things, it is
permissible for her to ask a man for help, because
cases of necessity make forbidden things permissible,
but necessity should not be exaggerated. The shar'i
principle that is well known among the scholars is:
"Hardship brings ease."
It is worth noting that these circumstances that you
are facing do not make that which is forbidden
permissible, rather it remains haraam until the Day of
Resurrection. This is in general terms, but a
concession may be allowed in cases of necessity and at
times of need only.
If the need ceases to apply, or it is possible to deal
with it in a shar'i manner, such as seeking the help
of a mahram or another woman, then the original
ruling, that it is haraam and a sin, comes into effect
again. So beware of persisting in it.
And Allaah knows best.