The Limits Within Which A Married Couple May Enjoy Intimacy With One Another, And The Ruling On A Man Suckling From His Wife
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permissible for a man to suck on his wife's breasts
Praise be to Allaah.
may enjoy intimacy with his wife in whatever way he
wishes; the only thing that is forbidden is anal
intercourse and intercourse during the wife's
menstrual period or nifaas (post-partum bleeding).
Apart from that, he may enjoy his wife in whatever way
he wants, such as kissing, touching, looking, etc.
Even if he sucks on her nipples, this comes under the
heading of the intimacy that is permissible, and it
cannot be said that the milk has any effect on him,
because if an adult breastfeeds, it does not have any
effect of making him a mahram. Rather the
breastfeeding that has this effect is that which takes
place during the first two years of life.
The scholars of the Standing Committee said:
It is permissible for a husband to enjoy all of his
wife's body, apart from the back passage and
intercourse during the wife's menstrual period or
nifaas (post-partum bleeding), or when in ihraam for
Hajj or 'Umrah, until he has exited ihraam completely.
Shaykh 'Abd al-'Azeez ibn Baaz, Shaykh 'Abd-Allaah ibn
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa'imah, 19/351, 352.
The scholars of the Standing Committee said:
It is permissible for the husband to suck his wife's
breasts, and if any milk reaches his stomach it does
not have the effect of making him a mahram.
Shaykh 'Abd al-'Azeez ibn Baaz, Shaykh 'Abd al-Razzaaq
'Afeefi, Shaykh 'Abd-Allaah al-Ghadyaan, Shaykh 'Abd-Allaah
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-'Uthaymeen said:
Breastfeeding by an adult does not have the effect of
making him a mahram, because the breastfeeding that
has that effect is five breastfeedings or more within
the first two years of life before weaning.
Breastfeeding by an adult does not have that effect.
Based on this, if we assume that someone breastfed
from his wife or drank her milk, he cannot become a
son to her.
Fataawa Islamiyyah, 3/338.
With regard to it being permissible to enjoy anything
concerning which there is no prohibition, there follow
some of the views of the scholars:
Ibn Qudaamah said:
There is nothing wrong with enjoying the area between
the buttocks without any penetration, because what is
forbidden is the back passage, which is mentioned
specifically, which is forbidden because of the filth,
and that is specific to the back passage, therefore it
Among the saheeh rulings on marriage is that it is
permissible to look at and touch every part of her
from head to foot when she is alive, because
intercourse goes beyond looking and touching, so it is
more appropriate that touching and looking should be
Badaa'i' al-Sanaa'i', 2/231
Ibn 'Aabideen said:
Abu Yoosuf asked Abu Haneefah about a man who touches
his wife's private part and she touches his to
stimulate arousal – did he see anything wrong with
that? He said: No, and I hope that the reward will be
Radd al-Muhtaar, 6/367.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) stated that this is permissible when he forbade
intercourse in the vagina with a menstruating woman,
but he permitted all other parts of her body. So it is
more obvious that it is permissible at times other
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-'Uthaymeen (may Allaah
have mercy on him) said:
The words "He may enjoy everything else of her apart
from that" means that the man may enjoy every part of
the menstruating woman apart from the vagina.
It is permissible to enjoy what is above and below the
waist wrapper (izaar), but the woman should be wrapped
in a waist wrapper, because the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to tell 'Aa'ishah
to wrap herself in a waist-wrapper when she was
menstruating, then he would be intimate with her. He
told her to do that lest he saw something that he
disliked, namely the menstrual blood. But if the
husband wants to enjoy the area between the thighs,
for example, there is nothing wrong with that.
If it is said: What do you say about the words of the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
when he was asked what part of his wife is permissible
for a man when she is menstruating and he said, "You
have that which is above the waist-wrapper" and this
indicates that one may only enjoy that which is above
The answer is as follows:
1 – That is in order to be on the safe side and to
avoid that which is forbidden.
2 – It may vary according to circumstances. The words
of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him), "Do everything apart from intercourse" may be
taken as being addressed to one who can control
himself, and the words, "You have that which is above
the waist-wrapper" may be taken as being addressed to
one who cannot control himself, either because his
religious commitment is too weak or his desire is too
Al-Sharh al-Mumti', 1/417.
And Allaah knows best.