Educating Your Children In Ramadan
Children (who did not reach puberty) are not commanded to fast. However, their
parents or guardians are strongly recommended to encourage them to fast few
days so that they get used to it and they grow up knowing of the worship of
fasting as they would know that of praying. In fact this was the practice of
the first women of Islam who were living around the Prophet, salla Allahu
alaihi wa sallam. An example of that is ar-Rubay' bint Ma'ouz who reported
that: ''The Messenger of Allah, salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam, sent a man on
the morning of the day of 'Ashurah, to the residences of the Ansar, saying:
'Whoever has spent the morning fasting is to complete his fast. Whoever has
not spent this morning fasting should voluntary fast for the remainder of the
day.' We fasted after that announcement, as did our young children. We would
go to the mosque and make toys stuffed with cotton for them to play with. If
one of them started crying due to hunger, we would give them a toy to play
with until it was time to eat.'' [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
«أرسل رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم غداة عاشوراء إلى قرى الأنصار، التي حول
المدينة: من كان أصبح صائما، فليتم صومه. ومن كان أصبح مفطرا، فليتم بقية يومه.
فكنا بعد ذلك نصومه ونصوم صبياننا الصغار منهم، إن شاء الله. ونذهب إلى المسجد
فنجعل لهم اللعبة من العهن. فإذا بكى أحدهم على الطعام، أعطيناها إياه عند
الإفطار» رواه البخاري ومسلم
Dear sister remember that among the seven that Allah will shade under His
shade on the Day of Judgment is a young man who grew up in the worship of
Allah. Therefore let your children be one of these.
There are many ways to educate your children about Ramadan, the best and most
important of which is to set the good example by fasting properly and behaving
according to the Prophetic teachings. This is what your children will take
from you first. When you are fulfilling this you can very easily (and they
will accept it and practice it easily as well) teach them what you want.
Here are few tips that you can use with your children (you can think of others
· Depending on their age encourage them to fast a number of days up to every
other day or more for those who are almost at the age of puberty. For those
who are still young let them fast a day or two and praise them in front of
friends and relatives for their achievement.
· Let your children go with their father to the Masjid for Maghrib prayer and
break the fast with the larger Muslim community to make them feel the
greatness of fasting and the unity of Muslims in worshipping Allah.
· If your children cannot fast let them eat with you at the time of Maghrib
and teach them that you are breaking the fast even if they ate before.
· Teach your children the supplication of breaking the fast
· Take your children to the Taraweeh prayer so that they get used it and know
about it from their early age. They may sit or stay in the back of the prayer
room if they get tired.
· Teach them to give charity. Do it in front of them and tell them you are
doing it because the reward increases in Ramadan.
· Teach them to recite Qur'an regularly and inform them that the Prophet (salla
Allahu alaihi wa sallam) used to do that in Ramadan.
· Correct them if they behave wrongly or say unacceptable words and remind
them that they are fasting or they are in Ramadan and this may alter their
· Wake them up for Suhoor (even if they don't fast) and Fajr prayer.
· Teach them to feed the people fasting and tell them about the reward for
· Dress them in the best clothes, give them a bath and take them with you to
the Eid Prayer. Teach them that this is our feast and celebration and that
Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving and other holidays are not ours. Stress the
And remember that the Prophet salla allahu alaihi wa sallam said: ''One who is
given the responsibility of the bringing up of daughters and treats them well
will be a shield for him from Hell.'' [Authenticated by Al-Albani]
«من ابتلي من هذه البنات بشيء، فأحسن إليهن، كن له سترا من النار» صححه الألباني