My Husband And Ramadan Series
Muhammad Rashid Al 'Uwayd
In the month of Ramadan of each year, a problem erupts. My problem is my
husband's addiction to the watching of series, particularly in these virtuous
days. I kept on telling him to reduce watching them, but he does not pay
attention to my recommendations. The problem is that in most cases he asks me
to sit and watch these series with him. This puts a burden over me because it
wastes the blessing of the month as it contributes in unbalanced psychology of
children; what should I do?
It is anticipated that a man complains about his wife who always sits before
TV for a long period to watch movies, series, talk shows, and singing, but it
has surprised me to see that the complaint is coming out of a wife; may Allah
bless you and increase people like you.
I shall begin treatment from the point of your husband's request to sit and
watch movies and series with him. I remind you of the Prophet's saying: "There
is no obedience to a creature in a sin against the Creator." "Sahih Al Jami'".
Consequently, I hope you refuse doing so, recite the Hadith to him, and tell
him that you are keen to obey him, but in righteous matters and in things that
do not contain a disobedience to Allah (may He be Exalted) Who disapproves
what your husband watches.
In the moments of intimacy, ask him: If your boss cuts from your salary the
time you spend in your co-workers' offices, won't you be keen to take your
full salary at the end of the month? When he answers in affirmative, say to
him: I want you to take your full reward at the end of Ramadan, so do not
waste these hours in watching series.
Then explain to him gently saying: Our loss (do not say: Your loss) is much
bigger than deduction from the salary. We lose many charities and great
rewards which we would have earned if we spend them in reciting the Glorious
Qur'an or reading scientific or religious books.
If your husband does not like to read books, urge him to follow-up religious
programs in different channels, and give him comfort that he shall get reward
You may also read to him pages you liked from a book or interesting and useful
information or answers to questions which you know wandering in his mind.
Try to distract him from following series by asking him about matters which he
likes to speak about like his actions, hobbies, or something else. Be keen to
listen to him and interact with him, and there is no harm in praising him and
admiring his speech.
If you are obliged to follow-up these movies and series, criticize them by
saying: They are stealing our times and make us busy with these trivial
matters from our essential duties.
Do not forget to seek the help of Allah through invocations that Allah would
direct your husband away from those series and movies and make him avert from
Also, try to send him a message every now and then from the wise sayings of
righteous people about the time, its value, and the sin of wasting it.
Published with cooperation with (Minbar Ad-Da'iyat) magazine.