The Garden Of Good Manners
Nabil ibn 'Abdul-Magid An-Nashamy
Allah (Blessed and Exalted be He) says: "Those who spend (in Allâh's Cause) in
prosperity and in adversity, who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily,
Allâh loves Al-Muhsinűn (the good-doers)." [Surat Al 'Imran: 134].
Allah (Blessed and Exalted be He) says: "The good deed and the evil deed
cannot be equal. Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allâh orders
the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those
who treat them badly) then verily he, between whom and you there was enmity,
(will become) as though he was a close friend. * But none is granted it (the
above quality) except those who are patient - and none is granted it except
the owner of the great portion (of happiness in the Hereafter i.e. Paradise
and of a high moral character) in this world." [Surat Fussilat: 34 35].
Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace
be upon him) said: "Whoever does not give up forged speech and evil actions,
Allah is not in need of his (fasting) leaving his food and drink." [Reported
by Al Bukhari] 
Abu Ad-Darda' (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace
be upon him) said: "Nothing will be heavier on the Day of Resurrection in the
Scale of the believer than good manners. Allah hates one who utters foul or
coarse language." [Reported by At-Tirmidhy who said: A good and authentic
Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated: "The Prophet (peace be
upon him) was asked about what will predominantly cause people to enter
Paradise. He said: Fearing Allah and good manners. He was asked about what
will predominantly cause people to enter Hell-Fire. He said: The tongue and
the genitals." [Reported by At-Tirmidhy who said: A good and authentic Hadith].
The person who observes fasting has a ripe, fruitful, and sweet garden which
he enjoys where he is surrounded by good smell, good taste, and good color; it
is the garden of good manners in which the fasting person lives.
The garden of good manners starts with "When someone insults him" and its end
is "I am a fasting person." So, a fasting person shows good manners that amaze
the lewd because the good words and the noble actions of the fasting people
prevent them from talking.
The adornment of the fasting person is: Patience, forbearance, forgiving,
generosity, benevolence, goodness, piety, clarity, transparency, soundness of
the heart, sweetness of the tongue, hastening to good deeds, and cooperation
for goodness and piety, among other good manners which a fasting person seeks
to reach the highest degrees.
The garden of good manners is not new for believers because its origins exist
inside him and in Ramadan they show up and flourish more and more until they
reach a high degree of beauty and perfection.
In response to the set of good manners of a fasting person, the society enjoys
love and intimacy, and the spirit of solidarity and cooperation prevail,
whereas disputes and rivalries disappear from people except those who gave up
themselves to Satan whether they are fasting or not.
So, it is easy to expose the defects of those who refuse to enter the garden
of good manners and observe patience for bad manners, as a result all the
people will feel the bad smell of his bad manners, the ugliness of his tongue,
and the dirtiness of his behavior because he did not benefit from the good
manners of Ramadan, so he is bad even in Ramadan.
To him time and place do not differ and he does not care for the month or the
rights of his Muslim brothers because ugliness is an inherent quality in him.
Or you may say: He gave himself up to Satan, so anyone who deals with him
If the fool only knew the pleasure of the reasonable when dealing with good
If they only knew the pleasure of defeating their desires and whims, moreover
their enemy, i.e., Satan, while they are facing the bad deeds with good ones
and facing the fool with good words. If they knew that or felt it, they would
seek it day and night and by any means, but whoever ignores something, he sets
rivalry against it; so glory be to the one who guides and misleads whomever He
The garden of good manners is an adornment by which the fasting people adorn
themselves everywhere with their wives and kids to the extent that they wish
that the entire year be like Ramadan. By good manners, selling and purchasing,
taking and giving, sayings and actions, dealings and transactions become easy
after they had been difficult. By good manners distances are cut, rivalry
ends, and disputes which need many discussions and debates stop because by
good manners the impossible becomes possible as shown by many examples.
Good manners are a crown on the head of the fasting and a brightness in his
face, so whenever he rises a degree, the crows will be more beautiful and the
face will be brighter, and for every diligent there is a share.
The fasting person protects his fasting by safeguarding his tongue from
indulging into ideal talks as he protected his belly from unlawful food and
his genitals from illegal sexual intercourse. The matter of tongue is very
serious because it is the cause for the nullification of fasting, leaving a
person hungry and thirsty without gaining the reward of fasting. So, the keen
person ties his tongue so as not to nullify his fasting. Let it be known that
the matter in Ramadan is severer and the need to self-control is confirmed, so
let a person observe patience for controlling himself in Ramadan to gain the
fruit of the month, otherwise he shall weep for himself if he releases his
tongue despite his hunger and thirst. At that point, the fasting people
differ, their vigor differs, the reality of men shows up, and their degrees
O Allah, guide us to the best of sayings, actions, and manners, for none can
guide to them but You, and ward bad manners off, for none can ward them off
Sahih Al Bukhari (1770).
Sahih At-Targhib wat-Tarhib (2641).