She Is Concealing Her Islam From Her Family In China; Can She Visit Them Without Hijab, And Wearing Pants?

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My wife is Chinese and converted to islam 3 years ago walhamduliLlah. She did not observe the hijab or pray at first but for a year now, she prays and observes the hijab, Ramadan, Hajj, & zakat. There is just one problem. She did not tell her family that she became a Muslim and when we go to visit them 4 times a year for a few days, she does not wear the hijab and sometimes she puts on a hat to cover her hair when she goes out. She also wears pants sometimes when she's visiting her family. Lastly, one in a while we have to go out to a chinese restaurant and eat. They do not order pork or alcohol out of respect for me. She does not want to tell her family or explain to them so that she may not inconvenience them. As a husband, i am afraid that if I let her do that I may be considered a DAYOUTH and bear the sin along with her. On the other hand, if I try to force her to do that there may be repercussions on the family as we have 4 children walhamduliLlah. Please note that I am planning to move out of the kuffar country to the Muslm land in about year Inshaa Allah so that these problems are no longer there or absolutely minimal. Please advise as to the food in the restaurant and the hijab/dress issues.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly:

We praise Allaah for having blessed your wife with guidance and choosing her to be one of the Muslims. This is a great and precious blessing which should be protected and nurtured. Try to support her in learning the rulings of Islam, strengthening her faith by doing acts of obedience and keeping away from sin. We ask Allaah to enable you to do all that is good.

Secondly:

We do not think that she has any excuse for uncovering her head or for wearing pants, unless she is afraid that her family will harm her if they find out about her being Muslim. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

"Verily, as for those whom the angels take (in death) while they are wronging themselves (as they stayed among the disbelievers even though emigration was obligatory for them), they (angels) say (to them): ‘In what (condition) were you?' They reply: ‘We were weak and oppressed on the earth.' They (angels) say: ‘Was not the earth of Allaah spacious enough for you to emigrate therein?' Such men will find their abode in Hell — what an evil destination!

98. Except the weak ones among men, women and children who cannot devise a plan, nor are they able to direct their way"

[al-Nisa' 4:97, 98]

Your wife -- as it appears to us from what you say -- is not one of those who are weak and oppressed, because she is not living with her family and she has nothing to fear from them; rather the most that can be said is that she is afraid of her ties with them being severed.

Al-Aloosi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

What is meant is that they tried to justify their shortcomings in showing their Islam openly and falling short in carrying out their religious duties on the grounds that they were weak and oppressed, which was why they could not carry out their religious duties among the people of Makkah; therefore they did not do much. Or they made excuses for not going out with them [the Muslims, to Madeenah] and becoming a part of their [Muslim] community on the grounds that they were helpless and under the control of the non-Muslims of Makkah. Whatever the case, the angels did not accept this from them.

Tafseer al-Aloosi, 4/196

And he (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

Every believer who finds himself in a place where he cannot show his religion openly because of the opposition of those who are not Muslims is obliged to migrate to a place where he can show his religion openly. It is not permissible for him at all to stay there and conceal his religion and to make the excuse that he is weak and oppressed, because Allaah's earth is vast and spacious.

Yes, if he is one of those who have a shar'i excuse for not migrating, such as children, women, the blind, those who are detained, those whom the non-Muslims scare with threats to kill them or to kill their children or fathers or mothers, in cases where he thinks that what they are scaring him with is most likely to happen -- whether that killing is by beheading, withholding food and so on -- then in that case it is permissible for him to stay with the non-Muslims and to go along with them as much it is necessary, but he must strive to find ways to escape and flee for the sake of his religion. End quote.

Tafseer al-Aloosi, 2/479

What we advise you to do -- if your wife is not afraid that she may be harmed by her family -- is to tell them that she has become Muslim and to send someone to them to inform them about that, and to continue to uphold ties with them and treat them kindly.

Perhaps one of the greatest benefits of her showing her Islam openly is that she will become keen to call her family to Islam and she will start to look for suitable ways to do that, such as corresponding with them, talking to them, and sending them audiovisual materials on Islam. Perhaps Allaah will guide them to enter Islam, and that will be included in the balance of your good deeds. Thus your wife will be safe from committing those haraam actions, she will have established proof against her family, she will have discharged her responsibilities before Allaah and she will have striven to guide them and save them, because it is not right for her to have the blessing of Islam and deprive her family of it.

We ask Allaah to help and guide you.

And Allaah knows best.

Ruling on taking off hijaab when travelling abroad

What is the ruling on taking off hijaab and uncovering the face when traveling abroad in obedience to my mother's demands, on the grounds that I attract unwelcome attention?

Praise be to Allaah.

It is not permissible for you or for any other woman to take off your hijaab in the kaafir countries, just as that is not permissible in any Muslim country. It is obligatory to observe hijaab in front of non-mahram males whether they are Muslims or kaafirs; indeed it is more obligatory in the case of kaafirs, because they have no faith to keep them from doing that which Allaah has forbidden.

It is not permissible for you or any other woman to obey parents or anyone else in doing that which Allaah and His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) have forbidden. Allaah says in Soorat al-Ahzaab (interpretation of the meaning):

"And when you ask (his wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen, that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts"

[al-Ahzaab 33:53]

In this aayah Allaah explains that for women to observe hijaab and be screened from non-mahram men is purer for the hearts of everyone. And Allaah says in Soorat al-Noor (interpretation of the meaning):

"And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, headcover, apron), and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband's fathers…"

[al-Noor 24:31]

And the face is the greatest part of beauty or adornment.

Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him)from Al-Hisbah magazine, issue no. 39, p. 14
 

 

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