Missing A Deceased Person: Wanted To Know If It Is Wrong To Miss Someone Who Has Died?
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I wanted
to know if it is wrong to miss someone who has died?
Praise be to Allah.
We do not think there is anything wrong with missing a
person who has died, even though this implies wishing
to meet him and be close to him, although one is alive
and the other person is dead, and this feeling serves
no real purpose. But if we say that we wish we could
meet the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon
him) and the Sahabah/Companions (may Allah be pleased
with them), and the Tabi'een (Successors) and the
scholars, this feeling is the hope of meeting them in
Paradise, The person who wishes that he could meet
these great people has to strive hard so that his Lord
will be pleased with him and will admit him to
Paradise with them, so that his longing will be
fulfilled and will come to pass. This is the good
result of longing to see the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) and the Sahabah (may
Allah be pleased with them). This is the way in which
the Sahabah (may Allah be pleased with them) missed
the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)
after he died. For example, Muslim narrated that Anas
(may Allah be pleased with him) said: "After the
Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him) died, Abu Bakr said to 'Umar (may Allah be
pleased with them both), 'Let us go and visit Umm
Ayman as the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) used to visit her. When they
came to her, she wept, and they said, 'Why are you
crying? What is with Allah is better for His Messenger
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him).' She said,
'I am not weeping because I do not know that what is
with Allah is better for His Messenger (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him). Rather I am weeping
because the Revelation from heaven has come to an
end.' That moved them deeply and they began to weep
with her."
(Muslim, 2454)
But if this missing a deceased friend or relative
makes a person feel grief and despair – and sometimes
distress – and makes him object to the will and decree
of Allah, then this should not be allowed and should
be denounced and forbidden, because this may lead to
the development of bad characteristics which Islam
strives to keep its followers away from. The Muslim
should be happy and content with the will and decree
of Allah and His rule and law.
And Allah knows best.
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