Premarital Sex, And Is It The Parents' Obligation To Arrange Marriage For Their Children?
Islamic Rulings -
Living Shariah Verdicts
Islamic Questions & Answers
I have
heard that it is parents obligation to arrange for
marraige of adult children and if they fail to do so,
punishment for any sin committed by children is given
to the parents.
Secondly, if anyone indulges in sex (not intercourse)
with honest intentions to marry that person later,
then is the sin committed by them forgiven? How bad is
it for a muslim to do so?
Praise be to Allaah.
In answer to your second question, to say that it is
permissible for a man to engage in a premarital
physical relationship (even if it does not include
intercourse) with a woman who is not permissible for
him, claiming that he intends to marry her in the
future, is total and utter nonsense. This can never be
allowed by sharee'ah, and there can be no legitimate
relationship until after the completion of a legal
marriage contract according to Islamic law (i.e.,
nikaah).
I sent your first question to Shaykh 'Abd-Allaah ibn 'Abd
al-Rahmaan al-Jibreen, and he wrote back to me with
the following answer:
Yes, it is a duty on the father to keep his children
chaste by arranging their marriages, and spending on
them and clothing them, if he is able to do so. If he
is not able to, but the mother, grandfather or
grandmother is able, it becomes that person's duty to
arrange the marriage. If the son cannot afford it but
he has the ability to earn a living, it is his
obligation to do so, in order to keep himself chaste.
And Allaah knows best.